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1  AFRICA FORUMS BUSINESS, SOCIETY AND ECONOMY BOARDS / LOVE, RELATIONSHIP & ROMANCE / Re: Have you ever beaten your girl or boy friend? on:
Kodo you are the one to go about slapping women, are you :-)
2  AFRICA FORUMS BUSINESS, SOCIETY AND ECONOMY BOARDS / LOVE, RELATIONSHIP & ROMANCE / Re: Question: What would you do if you were her father? on:
"don't worry I am preparing my parents food, I will poison them......" phewww! As the girl's father I would not eat the food :-)
3  AFRICA FORUMS GENERAL CATEGORY COMMUNITY ROOMS / GENERAL / Re: Launching of Cokoye yellowPage and Webdirectory on:
Happy Belated Birthday Beloved Cokoye. May you forever keep aging :-)
4  AFRICA FORUMS GENERAL CATEGORY COMMUNITY ROOMS / GENERAL / Re: Interview with Christian Okoye: Founder of www.cokoye.com by Lionnel Yamentou on:
Great interview. Revealing of the man behind this awesome project. thanks for facilitating discussions among us Africans in such a simplified manner, yet involving lots of challenging hard work behind the scenes.
5  AFRICA FORUMS ARTS, EDUCATION AND ENTERTAINMENTS BOARDS / LITERATURE and BOOKS / Re: POVERTY ALLEVIATION, LITERATURE AND HUMAN EXISTENCE IN NIGERIA on:
very impressive. indeed :-) our soooo dynamic community is going academic too. Brilliant!!!! Many thanks to the administrators.
6  AFRICA FORUMS BUSINESS, SOCIETY AND ECONOMY BOARDS / LOVE, RELATIONSHIP & ROMANCE / Re: If your heart broken by your partner what would you do? on:
If your heart is broken by your partner what would you do?
What would your reaction be: quit the relation, hurt him or her, fight the third party in case of cheating, just ignore and hand over to God, demand payback etc?

Will try to remember that the heart break will not be the first in the world, nor the last. although this is easier said than done. will not quarrel with the partner or hurt the partner. will also not to seek any kind of explanation from the partner's new partner, as I consider it my partner's responsibility to respect our relationship and not go out to cheat. will let the partner know that I disapprove of that kind of behaviour, and will walk away in peace. will then move on, even if it may seem hard at the beginning.
7  AFRICA FORUMS BUSINESS, SOCIETY AND ECONOMY BOARDS / RELIGION / Re: DOES READING MULTIPLE BIBLE CHAPTERS GUARANTEE ANSWER THAN SINGLE CHAPTER on:
I think reading the bible always creates a question: should we look at the content critically or just as it is?
8  AFRICA FORUMS ARTS, EDUCATION AND ENTERTAINMENTS BOARDS / HUMOUR and JOKES / Re: jamb result on:
haaahaaaahaaaaaaa! you've made my day brother. keep them rolling the jokes they are good for the heart :-)
9  AFRICA FORUMS BUSINESS, SOCIETY AND ECONOMY BOARDS / LOVE, RELATIONSHIP & ROMANCE / Re: Is above 30 too old? on:
lool Miller, 40 isn't too far off. Anyway, I think age is just a number...
10  AFRICA FORUMS BUSINESS, SOCIETY AND ECONOMY BOARDS / LOVE, RELATIONSHIP & ROMANCE / Is a Lady above 30 too old? on:
Hi all,
I was listening to an African internet radio show. They have a weekly programme where they try to connect singles. A lady, I think she is based in the UK (or was it USA?) called and introduced herself, the kind of men she would date and so on. She also revealed that she had such a good job and earned enough to even look after her partner should need be. The the moderator started asking her questions. You  know those kind of questions that most of us would not feel comfortable disclosing on a public forum e.g. when is the last time you were physically intimate with someone and why.

Well, the lady seemed to have some cool things to say as men suddenly started calling from all over the world. Then it came to the most critical part of the question and answer session, the 'how old are you bit'. She revealed that she is well above 30. Suddenly all the guys seemed to be dropping the call except one who 'blatantly' claimed: 'but ma'am thirty is already too old'. I personally thought that was way too mean, but was too meek to call up and challenge the guy on behalf of the lady.

Any, what do you folks think? What is the right age for marriage? Gentlemen, would you marry a woman who is above 30 possibly going 40, has never been married, got no kids and seemed to have been a good girl all her life? Ladies would you marry a 40year old male virgin or would suspicion stop you from taking that life changing step?
11  AFRICA FORUMS BUSINESS, SOCIETY AND ECONOMY BOARDS / RELIGION / What is a prayer and how do we pray on:
Hi all,

Living very far from home (Africa that is) has meant that I have had to scout around for a church that I can most identify with. A church that's close to the kind of church I grew up attending. In my search, I have visited churches based on a number of criteria including the most common nationality of the attendees. I have explored, if you may. I have also accompanied some of my friends to their churches, which has allowed me to intermingle with broadly e.g., Nigerian, Ghanaian,  South African, German, Austrian, British, American and Zimbabwean segments of worshippers.

In the process, I have noticed one thing: A lot of us African women tend to weep a lot in church when we are being 'prayed for' by the pastor, and some of us may literally throw ourselves at the pastor with the strong belief that his act of laying hands on our heads will solve all our problems. Based on these observations, I have started asking myself what God expects from us when we talk to him. I started thinking about how my father would react if I would cry everytime when I ask him for e.g., financial assistance or to share his wisdom with me.

Where do tears stand in our communication with God? Does God expect us to weep? If you feel that you somehoe know the answer please share it, as this could help not just me but a lot more other people out there. Of course, I am aware that we can never fully comprehend God, but surely some of us have a much richer spiritual understanding of, and relationship with him, which may help in explaining things to the rest of us.

By the way this post is not intended for, or related to, my research on brand Africa :-)
12  AFRICA FORUMS ARTS, EDUCATION AND ENTERTAINMENTS BOARDS / HUMOUR and JOKES / Re: Lost Donkey on:
WOW. That cracked me me up...
13  AFRICA FORUMS ARTS, EDUCATION AND ENTERTAINMENTS BOARDS / ENTERTAINMENTS / Re: Post The Most Scariest Photos Here on:
but why are they all non-African horror figures :-)
14  AFRICA FORUMS BUSINESS, SOCIETY AND ECONOMY BOARDS / SOCIETY / Re: May I quote you? on:
Hi all,

just to update you on how we are doing with the research, here is a link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=omFTWox94sA

looking forward to your comments and recommendations.

Best wishes,
Dqueen
15  AFRICA FORUMS BUSINESS, SOCIETY AND ECONOMY BOARDS / POLITICS / Re: DO YOU BELIEF AFRICA IS THE POOREST CONTINENT? on:
I think it's time for us to focus on 'us the people'. Perhaps you would like to comment on these views: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=omFTWox94sA
16  AFRICA FORUMS ARTS, EDUCATION AND ENTERTAINMENTS BOARDS / LITERATURE and BOOKS / Re: Debut Novel, A Heart To Mend, Wins Awards For Author Myne Whitman on:
Is Myne Whitman Nigerian? I have to admit some of the novels I enjoyed most were written by Nigerian novelists. The stories varied in their style and thickness. But there is one thing I enjoyed a lot about them, they were African centred - which means I could relate to many of them in many different ways. I read most of those when I was about 16-18years old. back them we called them Pacesetters, and I had to negotiate a lot with the school librarian who always thought I was too young to read certain books. I hope to get hold of Myne Whitman's copy.
17  AFRICA FORUMS ARTS, EDUCATION AND ENTERTAINMENTS BOARDS / SPORTS / Re: AFCON Match Report: Togo 1-1 Tunisia on:
It's getting exciting. Anyone predicting that the Ghanaians might take the cup home this year. If they do, then I have to move to Ghana :-)
18  AFRICA FORUMS BUSINESS, SOCIETY AND ECONOMY BOARDS / SOCIETY / Re: WHAT DOES CRY CONNOTES? on:
Interesting post. Just the other day I was asking myself the same question after watching a Youtube Video Of Barack Obama crying. The I remembered that some people also cry when they laugh! Why they do it, I don't know. Perhaps it's an emotional thing that we can't really define or understand.
19  AFRICA FORUMS BUSINESS, SOCIETY AND ECONOMY BOARDS / SOCIETY / Re: AS AN ADULT WHAT LESSONS HAVE LIFE THOUGHT YOU? on:
This is an interesting thread (question), and a difficult one at the same time. I guess we learn something everyday. However, what I learnt is that if you work really hard for an exam, you will pass it.
20  AFRICA FORUMS BUSINESS, SOCIETY AND ECONOMY BOARDS / LOVE, RELATIONSHIP & ROMANCE / Re: WHY DO BAD GUYS ATTRACT GOOD GIRLS? on:
Dqueen, "opposites attract" is general theory, let put it this way, you as a lady, would you date a bad guy (that is rich, spend lavishly on you and feared in the society) and why?

WOW Perfect! I won't reveal my preferences to the whole world :-)
21  AFRICA FORUMS ARTS, EDUCATION AND ENTERTAINMENTS BOARDS / EVENTS / Re: Happy pleasant new year on:
Indeed, Happy New Year to you too and everyone in this community!
22  AFRICA FORUMS GENERAL CATEGORY COMMUNITY ROOMS / GENERAL / Re: WHAT IS YOUR NEW YEAR RESOLUTION? on:
build a sand castle that's never going to collapse come what may :-)
23  AFRICA FORUMS BUSINESS, SOCIETY AND ECONOMY BOARDS / SOCIETY / Re: SHARE LIFE ISSUES YOU FOUND DIFFICULT TO UNDERSTAND on:
My worry, and honestly as a result of the learning I have been exposed to in the course of my studies, is that we Africans do not seem to take our responsibilities seriously. What do you think?
One time or the other we come across all forms of write ups from foreign media telling one nasty thing or the other about Africa either as people or as a continent.  Not taken responsibilities seriously is individual thing not other way round.
One racist man during South Africa struggle said: "that if you want to hide something for Black man hide it in paper" and another said: "Africans like affairs of leadership positions but hate responsibility", the list goes on. Dqueen all these are people's opinion (not fact) emanating from frustration they were undergoing at given point in time. I have done business with people out side Africa a lot who mess up my projects yet I didn't go around telling any one who cares to listen how or what Mr b or c  is.

Firstly, I would like to commend you, if I may, for your business ethics. As a business man, I think you have a good approach towards dealing with mishaps.

By not taking responsibility I meant at institutional level, e.g., government and even at 'social' level. In simple words, if our governments were responsible enough, would corruption be so rampant across Africa? And if we ordinary Africans were responsible enough, would we choose 'irresponsible' leaders simply because we 'like' them or they come from 'our village'. These are questions I constantly ask myself, if I may say.
24  AFRICA FORUMS BUSINESS, SOCIETY AND ECONOMY BOARDS / LOVE, RELATIONSHIP & ROMANCE / Re: Why do girls shy to approach a man? on:
I think in general women tend not to chat up men, unless they are either (1) desperate or (2) really drunk. don't know...
25  AFRICA FORUMS BUSINESS, SOCIETY AND ECONOMY BOARDS / LOVE, RELATIONSHIP & ROMANCE / Re: WHY DO BAD GUYS ATTRACT GOOD GIRLS? on:
I think because opposites attract, LOL
26  AFRICA FORUMS BUSINESS, SOCIETY AND ECONOMY BOARDS / LOVE, RELATIONSHIP & ROMANCE / Re: why do girls shy to aproach a man. on:
because African culture does not expect, allow and respect female initiation in establishing relationships: It's the man's job. A woman who takes it upon herself to court a man is often seen as desperate, loose and not fit for marriage. No African girl that I know would like to be classified as such :-)
27  AFRICA FORUMS BUSINESS, SOCIETY AND ECONOMY BOARDS / SOCIETY / Re: SHARE LIFE ISSUES YOU FOUND DIFFICULT TO UNDERSTAND on:
My worry, and honestly as a result of the learning I have been exposed to in the course of my studies, is that we Africans do not seem to take our responsibilities seriously. What do you think?
28  AFRICA FORUMS BUSINESS, SOCIETY AND ECONOMY BOARDS / SOCIETY / Re: SHARE LIFE ISSUES YOU FOUND DIFFICULT TO UNDERSTAND on:
I think poor people remain poor mostly because they do not have the resources to allow them to change. I also think they do not participate in affairs, especially at national level, that would allow them to change as they give priority to their more immediate concerns. I say this tentatively, as I could be very wrong in my assessment.
29  AFRICA FORUMS BUSINESS, SOCIETY AND ECONOMY BOARDS / LOVE, RELATIONSHIP & ROMANCE / Re: 40 Things Every Woman Must Know About Men, Love, Sex and Relationships on:
Interesting. But again, what is love?
30  AFRICA FORUMS BUSINESS, SOCIETY AND ECONOMY BOARDS / LOVE, RELATIONSHIP & ROMANCE / Re: GUYS WHAT DO YOU HATE ABOUT LADIES/WOMEN on:
Is there a thread titled "Ladies what do you dislike about men?" somewhere in the forum? Would be interesting to compare the two.
31  AFRICA FORUMS GENERAL HEALTH COMMUNITY BOARDS / HEALTH / Re: SIERRA LEONE: Slashing the maternal mortality rate in Bo on:
That 'girl' in the picture below, is she the mum...she looks like a kid herself.
32  AFRICA FORUMS BUSINESS, SOCIETY AND ECONOMY BOARDS / POLITICS / Re: HOW DO YOU FEEL ABOUT YOUR HOME AFRICA? on:
Africa makes me feel great because no place like home!


HOME :-)
33  AFRICA FORUMS BUSINESS, SOCIETY AND ECONOMY BOARDS / POLITICS / Re: HOW DO YOU FEEL ABOUT YOUR HOME AFRICA? on:
No place like home (Africa), I like the way the earth smells here.

I like the smell of earth it has just rained, especially if it had been a very hot day. Love that African rain is never so contaminated. You can drink  it.
34  AFRICA FORUMS BUSINESS, SOCIETY AND ECONOMY BOARDS / LOVE, RELATIONSHIP & ROMANCE / Re: Love or Infatuation! on:
our parents for example 'love' us. are they always 'kind', and do they always 'believe' us, even in our 'failures'? the point I'm trying to make is that love is elusive and perhaps even contextual. however, if for you love is all those things that you have mentioned, then that's love for you:-) this is an interesting debate abitex577.
35  AFRICA FORUMS BUSINESS, SOCIETY AND ECONOMY BOARDS / LOVE, RELATIONSHIP & ROMANCE / Re: Love or Infatuation! on:
hmmm...looks like I am a passionate debater on this subject called love, LOL!
36  AFRICA FORUMS BUSINESS, SOCIETY AND ECONOMY BOARDS / LOVE, RELATIONSHIP & ROMANCE / Re: Love or Infatuation! on:
I think you have said some interesting stuff abitex577. love is always an interesting topic. often too controversial. I will quote you below, and respond to some of the points you have made.

quote "I totally agree with you, of a truth when we meet someone and instantly get connected (chemistry) to that person, it is not love but infatuation,"

maybe. maybe not. ever heard someone saying "when our eyes met the first time, we felt like our souls were talking to each other, now we have been together for 20years"? the point I am trying to make is, love is too abstract for us to make general rules about what it is, how it is felt and when.

quote: "One can only love what you know, you cant love what you dont know."

I would say not always. We love Allah/God/Jesus/Mohammed but do we really know him? We love the 'imagination' of what we think he is. I suppose it's the same explanation for why we fall in love with someone we have never set eyes on, but only heard talking on the phone (mind you the phone does something to our voices, which tends to make them more attractive than they really are sometimes :-)) so we think we love the other partner at the end of the line until we have met him/her and realised, what a world far from ours they live in. my view is that love can be spontaneous, not meaning that it's infatuation.

it may be true that the less you know someone the more you love him or her or the less you know someone the less you love him or her...but still you love the person. or are you simply infatuated? sometimes it's hard to draw the lines. I am not saying though, that there is no infatuation, I am simply debating classifying quickly felt emotions as  infatuation. they may not always be such thing.
37  AFRICA FORUMS BUSINESS, SOCIETY AND ECONOMY BOARDS / SOCIETY / Re: May I quote you? on:
You can also conduct the interview through email or chat it will be more convenient to me especially.

Thanks Perfect for being as supportive as ever. I will email you the interview questions. Alternatively, we could skype if there is a good connection.
38  AFRICA FORUMS BUSINESS, SOCIETY AND ECONOMY BOARDS / SOCIETY / Re: May I quote you? on:
Dqueen glad to know that your project branding of Africa is getting to the direction as expected and better.
About the interview I think the only person I know because of his passion, focus and too much positive about the continent of Africa is the Administrator of  cokoye, you can see that in his write ups and value of this forum which states: All Positive and Uplifting of Africa. Being one of aims cokoye was founded.

Unlike thousands of members here, who visit cokoye to socialize; post to only areas related to their business, criticize Africa and read only.

Thank you for the kind words about my research project. It still has some way to go, but I believe it will get 'there' with cokoye community's continued support.

I will talk to Perfect soon.
39  AFRICA FORUMS BUSINESS, SOCIETY AND ECONOMY BOARDS / LOVE, RELATIONSHIP & ROMANCE / Re: YOUR ADVICE FOR MEN OR WOMEN ABOUT YOU on:
Dqueen, Jobless for eating three times daily? you seems to have subconscious  plan to starve your man?   

I meant if the man gets three meals daily, it means he spends the whole day at home. or does he come home everyday from work for meals?
40  AFRICA FORUMS BUSINESS, SOCIETY AND ECONOMY BOARDS / LOVE, RELATIONSHIP & ROMANCE / Re: Love or Infatuation! on:
That's complex. To some, love is all these things together. no wonder we come across people saying things like "I love my wife, she is the most beautiful person in the world". sometimes looks are not important, love grows slowly from knowing and understanding someone. I think someone once said love is elusive. It is many different things to many different people, and it can be pain and joy at the same time.

that's just my humble opinion.
41  AFRICA FORUMS BUSINESS, SOCIETY AND ECONOMY BOARDS / LOVE, RELATIONSHIP & ROMANCE / Re: YOUR EMBARRASING EXPERIENCE WITH LADIES on:
There is this young lady I boarded the same bus with, when we alighted, I approached her, she didn't look at my face and responded "Excuse me" I proceeded to further introduce myself. This lady raised her voice and shouted: what is matter with you? Most people around turned to our direction. As a gently man I was really embarrassed. 

She probably felt threatened or like you were intruding into her private sphere. Most people would not be comfortable with having strangers following them 'around'...
42  AFRICA FORUMS BUSINESS, SOCIETY AND ECONOMY BOARDS / LOVE, RELATIONSHIP & ROMANCE / Re: YOUR EMBARRASING EXPERIENCE WITH LADIES on:
My experience was awful one. There was this beautiful young lady during and after sex there was this unpleasant smell.
I posted and asking for solution here http://cokoye.com/love-relationship-romance-chat-room/her-virginal-smells-how-would-i-tell-her/
I was embarrassed by this.
 

Kodo, I think I was about to guess you would raise an issue along these lines. Are your posts becoming so predictable or what :-)
43  AFRICA FORUMS BUSINESS, SOCIETY AND ECONOMY BOARDS / SOCIETY / Re: May I quote you? on:
Dear all (my brothers and sisters),

Further to my previous posts, I would like to say I have updated my research blog with more details. I hope the information is enough to provide a somehow more clear picture of what my research is about and where it is going, including who I am: http://research-africa.blogspot.co.uk/

By the way I would like to conduct interviews within our community (cokoye), and if anyone is in UK and willing to do an interview please let me know. That would be so helpful. I will be sending private messages with the requests to some of you.

Thank you for your support so far.

Best wishes,
Penelope (but I prefer Dqueen when interacting here)
44  AFRICA FORUMS BUSINESS, SOCIETY AND ECONOMY BOARDS / LOVE, RELATIONSHIP & ROMANCE / Re: YOUR ADVICE FOR MEN OR WOMEN ABOUT YOU on:
That we are all beautiful equal beings, and whom Africa should be proud of.
45  AFRICA FORUMS BUSINESS, SOCIETY AND ECONOMY BOARDS / LOVE, RELATIONSHIP & ROMANCE / Re: YOUR ADVICE FOR MEN OR WOMEN ABOUT YOU on:
As a man what I ask and require of you apart from Children is be a good cook and serve me delicious food at least three times daily .
And good sex any time I want it. Be your self any time your out of my sight and always remember I love you. And promise to always treat you like a queen, while you behave like one.

Three meals per day everyday...you must be a man with no job. or working from home...?
46  AFRICA FORUMS BUSINESS, SOCIETY AND ECONOMY BOARDS / LOVE, RELATIONSHIP & ROMANCE / Re: AS A LADY WHERE IS BEST PLACE TO APPROACH YOU? on:
@ogbso...he will have to be a very powerful devil to enter the mosque. but I doubt that Allah/God would let him. If that should be the case, I pray that Allah/God grants me the wisdom he granted the woman you have talked about below.
47  AFRICA FORUMS BUSINESS, SOCIETY AND ECONOMY BOARDS / LOVE, RELATIONSHIP & ROMANCE / Re: AS A LADY WHERE IS BEST PLACE TO APPROACH YOU? on:
the mosque represents all things sacred to me. a guy who meets me there and chats me up would be a God or Allah fearing man. What a blessing!
48  AFRICA FORUMS BUSINESS, SOCIETY AND ECONOMY BOARDS / LOVE, RELATIONSHIP & ROMANCE / Re: AS A LADY WHERE IS BEST PLACE TO APPROACH YOU? on:
I would prefer the mosque
49  AFRICA FORUMS BUSINESS, SOCIETY AND ECONOMY BOARDS / RELIGION / Re: WHAT COMMENT OR VERSE IN BIBLE YOU WISH TO BE REMOVED? on:
Ok Dqueen, thank you for shading more light on it. Now I see why you wish that is removed in the Bible, because is confusing you. At least what you having be witnessing is contrary to what it says. Am I right?

Sure. Also there is no evidence of people getting punished for destroying other people's bodies.
50  AFRICA FORUMS BUSINESS, SOCIETY AND ECONOMY BOARDS / RELIGION / Re: WHAT COMMENT OR VERSE IN BIBLE YOU WISH TO BE REMOVED? on:
Dqueen , tell us why you wish so, as the thread suggested.

"Do you not know that you are God's temple and that God's Spirit dwells in you? If anyone destroys God's temple, God will destroy him. For God's temple is holy, and you are that temple."

If this would be true, those who have destroyed other people's bodies would have been destroyed by now. think about war, genocide and murder, and look how many people get away with it.
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