hi, its complicated but I will try to keep it brief.. in bullets..

Past few years me and this workmate have been fine, not best friends, but could tolerate each other. She had some hard feeling towards me as I was a school leaver who had no decent qualifications due to issues beyond my control, and have slaved hard to get degree.. and she doesnt like me going to college. But was mainly friendly!

Earlier this year I had to have a few days off work due to ectopic pregnancy which was unavoidable..

This workmate lost her father around the same time. Unfortunatly she had used up all her holidays in america a few weeks previously, so had to take the day as unpaid. I know that there is a ''compassionate leave issue'', but that was the company's decision.

I also lost my uncle in august, and had 8 days remaining so had to have a days holiday (paid). Now this workmate, started questioning my holidays and this lead to an outburst of me telling her to butt out im having the day to travel down to bournemouth.. She retorted that I was a silly cow and set about gossiping to other workmates..

It got to the point where no-one would speak to me. And I have not had a period since because of the stress.. Just been told by the hospitals secondary amenorroea due to stress at work.

The boss has made threats about the next time there is trouble im sacked.. ive not made it easy for myself either as I had a outburst on facebook about them saving my medical records on the public server.. this is the type of comany that locks personal files in a cupboard then leaves the key in them in an unlocked room.

Now I just dont know what to do. this woman is 36, so 12 years older than me.. She works in sales part time and I work in accounts full time.. Im still funding myself through my degree which is near completion, so there might be a bit of upset there from her.

Anyone relate to any of this.. Sorry for the ramble.. I dont know what else to do.. Ive allready lost my relationship this year, I dont want to lose my job aswell. (im in enough debt).

 

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Understanding the Situation

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