When you are getting a divorce and there are children involved, it is important to be careful how you react in front of the children.  After you tell them what is going on and explaining to them that they are still loved by both parents, you do not want to upset them in any way.  You need to make sure that the children are feeling safe and secure knowing that both parents love them.

You should never have a fight in front of the children with the other parent.  This will be very disturbing to the children and may cause them to be fearful of what may happen in the future.  You should not speak in a bad way about the other parent as well.  You have to be very careful not to call the other parent names or talk bad about any thing that they have done.

Never keep the children away from the other parent unless they are in danger of anything.  You should let the children see the parent when they feel the need to.  Let them know that they can call them anytime and you will be happy to drive them to see you're soon to ex spouse's residence any time that they want.

You never want to distance yourself from your children.  You have to keep up your responsibly of being a parent.  You need to communicate with your child and be a good parent.  It is a hard time and can be very depressing for a lot of adults.  It is important to keep up your strength both physically and emotionally for the children's sake. 


Do not try and buy the child's affection with gifts and money.  You need to spend time with them and let them know that they are the most important things right now.  You need to keep all of your promises to them and do not abandon them for any reason. If you say that you are going to be there is a certain time, you need to be there. 

If you think that the child needs to have therapy, you should make the necessary arrangements. Do you feel your child needs to talk to someone, if they need to talk to a professional let them, as this is going to help a child in the long run.  It is crucial to the children to be able to discuss their feeling and to be reassured that they have nothing to worry about concerning the divorce.  It is nothing to be ashamed of and the child should be made to feel comfortable about all that is going on around them.