Hello all, 
 
I have a serious life dilemma on my hands and I desperately need advice.  Because some of you know me personally, I've registered a new account to get help with this in order to stay anonymous.  I'm sure you'll understand why -- please, try to respect my anonymity, don't hunt down my family or anything like that.  This post will be long, so feel free to skip to the cliff's notes at the end if you like.   
 
My problem is that for the last two months, I've been cheating on my wife.  I don't say it with any pride, and I know it's a terrible thing to do.  I still love her, and she's the greatest thing that's ever happened to me -- but the problem is, our marriage has been almost totally sexless for the last four years.  We have been married for ten years, since we were both in our early 20s.  We used to be having sex at least once a day, we were on totally the same wavelength, but since then she's slowly been dialing it back -- not in the mood, has a headache, too tired -- until we're at where we are today.  I'm lucky if we have sex once a month, and even then I know she doesn't even like doing it.  There's nothing worse than looking in your partner's eyes and knowing that she's just *putting up* with your sexual needs.  It used to be an intimate connection, something we shared, a special bond.  But now it's a chore.   
 
I got so sick of seeing that look in her eyes that I signed up for a website promising discreet affairs.  The site is called Ashley Madison; you may have heard of it.  I signed up through this sales page, which promised me a 100% money back if I didn't have an affair.  I was skeptical.  Being with my wife so long has made me think that most women are just programmed not to want sex, that I was the bad guy, that there was no way I would ACTUALLY end up in an affair.   
 
I'm eating my words now, because I'm caught up in one.  Within a couple weeks of signing up, I was meeting up with an early 30's woman at a downtown hotel 45 minutes away.  She wasn't the most attractive woman, and her personality was grating -- but she thought I was amazing and sexy.  The fact that I was married made it hot and exciting for her.  And her being so interested in me, NEEDING me. . .  it was so easy to go along with it.  So I did.   
 
I've been seeing her about once a week, sometimes twice, ever since then.  It's easy to get away, and I know my wife isn't suspicious, but it's tearing me up inside.  I NEED sex, it's probably my favorite experience in all of the earthly pleasures -- but I love my wife, and she isn't interested.  On the other hand, the woman I'm having the affair with, while insatiable and hugely into me. . .  I don't really like her that much.  She's kind of annoying.  I'm certainly not ending my marriage to be with her, that's for sure.   
 
So. . .  what do I do? I don't even know.  If I could, I would keep it at the status quo forever.  But I know that going on like this has risks, and losing my marriage is unacceptable to me (although I know not all men would feel that way in this position).  Please help with whatever advice you can.   
 
Cliff's notes: Have been married for 10 years, almost sexless for the last four.  Signed up at this affair site, thinking it was just a pipe dream that would never materialize.  Now I'm stuck in a sexy affair with a woman I hate, and a sexless marriage with a woman I love.  Need advice and help ASAP.

wow.  .  .   married for 10 and sexless for 4? What put her off is what you should be finding out.   She used to enjoy it so what happened? I am a young fella so i dont have an experience in the marriage realm.   Either way you should stop cheating and try to make it work so to speak.   I sense a lack of communication, maybe? If not then you should be able to pin point what cause her to change course ya know?.  .  .   My two cents but the cheating gotta stop, it is not helping you in anyway . . .  Looking forward to peoples respond so i can learn a thing or two before i get there. . . 

Just cut your filthy AIDS ridden muh dik off and crap it up your stretched out down low ass.

Are you surprised by these monkeyshines???

Tell her about how you feel as a result of not having sex with her. This might solve the whole issue.

The PROBLEM I have with your POST is the DETAIL on the AFFAIR WEBSITE that you have provided despite you claiming ANONYMITY. It sounds to me like you are simply ADVERTISING the cheaters' website. Perhaps I read too much between the lines.

Assuming that your post is genuine, I would have wanted to say talk to your wife, try to find out why she doesn't fancy you anymore. have you changed during the last years, have you become less considerate, less caring, aggressive, too demanding and started treating her like an asset? the problem could be you.

I think you guys should go for counseling.

Cheating will never be a solution, this is like using short term solution to solve long term problem.