That statement alone tore my very insides. I didn't know what Edafe called me. I looked totally stupid and worthless. Was I still waiting in this relationship to hear all this rubbish? I might not be the best person but what good would someone married with 2 kids do you? Whatever would that person say to you that would make you this berserk?

If you don't even end up marrying me, Edafe, don't you think this same thing that you're doing now, someone else would do to your hubby. Karma, baby, karma!!!

I felt like I was preaching to an unrepentant sinner who would come out of her vomit, clean up and simply fall back in. I was quiet but didn't know I could be this calm especially about this whole matter.

Well, she never accepted but I knew she went to see him a few more times and I simply didn't see the reason I had to raise it anymore. Maybe cos I had to speak about it so much, it was giving her some sort of cheering to go on and do even more.

Then I found a way out. You only get hurt by the information you know, right? I decided not to check her phones anymore. Her phones became her world and my phone became my world. Whatever she did in her world, was her business. Even when we went out, well, she's the very expressive kind of person and would always have a reason to bring out her phone. Let me also state because most of you would be thinking I bore her to death when we go out. That's not true!!! It's just her person. Her phone and she seem to have this kind of new world they've created together and nothing, not even church sometimes could stop that.

So it went like that for a while. Maybe once or twice in that period, I saw his chat while she held her phone, few minutes later asked about it and BAMMM, it's clear again. It was a routine. You hardly even found Ike's chat with as much as hi anytime (if the chat was ever there).

Then one day, we spoke about it and she swore she'd grown out of it. Well, not sure if I stated but Edafe wasn't all young. During this period, we were planning our wedding and all. She was well over 24 and I, 27. Just to be sure, I asked her if I could check her phone and there was Ike, right there on her chat list but she'd changed his name from Ike to a simple dot (.)

I asked for her reason and she said she simply didn't want me to go crazy knowing I had told her over time to get him off. Then she also came up with the fact that she didn't want anyone to get angry and she decided to add him back to her list.

YOU DIDN'T WANT ANYONE TO GET ANGRY?? You sure didn't mean for me not to be angry, right?

It kept ringing in my head, "I added him for peace to reign"

Beneath is a true chat fight that came up when one of his issues came up

Participants:
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Tommywah, Edafeeee™

Messages:
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Edafeeee™: This relationship ended a long time ago
Edafeeee™: You don't just know it!!!
Tommywah: They're so many surprising things
Tommywah: Popping up
Tommywah: So why was I giving my all and all my head to it if you knew this
Tommywah: Why did you lemme hold on to something you knew was false
Edafeeee™: I tot we could work tkings out buh obviously no!!!!
Edafeeee™: You killed my love level daily
Edafeeee™: This is not me!!!!!!!!
Tommywah: Even if its not working, you're still saying all the me right and you wrong thing
Tommywah: Its all good
Tommywah: I killed it daily
Tommywah: I was the devil that took all your joy away
Tommywah: I caused all the pain
Tommywah: I caused all the tears and your getting plan B – Z. Like you said earlier, right?
Tommywah: I accept it all
Tommywah: Its fine
Edafeeee™: My heart used to skip 4 u now itz just lame
Tommywah: I caused that too
Tommywah: I totally changed and transformed you to what you are now
Tommywah: I accept that too
Edafeeee™: I'm tired of begging, saying sorry 4 issues all in the name of not wanting to lose u, not wanting u to be angry n all
Tommywah: But me having to have lived psuedo 2 yrs
Edafeeee™: When all you fuss about is Ike. Making me feel m doing something wrong. I keep begging every week. Who survives like that?

At that point, I became confused. Whose interest was she protecting? I was dead sure it wasn't mine. She ended our discussion that day with a smile and the words, "you wouldn't understand". I very well didn't want to understand at all. I had just had it up to here.



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