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Infatuation ends when a man stop  looking at physical things: like body, looks, feels, beauty etc, and love starts when I man looks at future, character and in being of the woman.

@webmaster, I totally agree with you, of a truth when we meet someone and instantly get connected (chemistry) to that person, it is not love but infatuation, I call it impulse of love, this kind could be said to be blind cos you hardly know anything about the person, now when you get to know each other gradually love develops or sets in, that is why love is not blind. One can only love what you know, you cant love what you dont know. A lot of fellas fall over heels in love with people they have not met but talked on phone, or chat on the net with, why cos when you know about the persons way of thought through chats and calls, you know a bit of the person and can also fall in love.

I think you have said some interesting stuff abitex577. love is always an interesting topic. often too controversial. I will quote you below, and respond to some of the points you have made.

quote "I totally agree with you, of a truth when we meet someone and instantly get connected (chemistry) to that person, it is not love but infatuation,"

maybe. maybe not. ever heard someone saying "when our eyes met the first time, we felt like our souls were talking to each other, now we have been together for 20years"? the point I am trying to make is, love is too abstract for us to make general rules about what it is, how it is felt and when.

quote: "One can only love what you know, you cant love what you dont know."

I would say not always. We love Allah/God/Jesus/Mohammed but do we really know him? We love the 'imagination' of what we think he is. I suppose it's the same explanation for why we fall in love with someone we have never set eyes on, but only heard talking on the phone (mind you the phone does something to our voices, which tends to make them more attractive than they really are sometimes :-)) so we think we love the other partner at the end of the line until we have met him/her and realised, what a world far from ours they live in. my view is that love can be spontaneous, not meaning that it's infatuation.

it may be true that the less you know someone the more you love him or her or the less you know someone the less you love him or her...but still you love the person. or are you simply infatuated? sometimes it's hard to draw the lines. I am not saying though, that there is no infatuation, I am simply debating classifying quickly felt emotions as  infatuation. they may not always be such thing.

Dqueen all women a passionate debater on the subject called love so I understand and you are no exception.
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Infatuation Vs Love is a serious and confusing subject, because all the battles and activities basically take place in the mind of the parties involve which each party tends to interpret to physical actions.
But the challenge here is that often we don't fully or realistically translate the really activities in our mind because some factors. Eg Fear,  wrong move etc
 

our parents for example 'love' us. are they always 'kind', and do they always 'believe' us, even in our 'failures'? the point I'm trying to make is that love is elusive and perhaps even contextual. however, if for you love is all those things that you have mentioned, then that's love for you:-) this is an interesting debate abitex577.

We should understand that Love and infatuation co exist in relationship no matter our intellectual sophistication to omit or deny it, because is like light that paves way for real love to develop which often takes time to mature.  So there should be something like Love and Infatuation as the both are just part of the system that runs relationship.  

You are welcome Abitex, we have to think  when it comes to issue that affect and relate to our day to day life.  Infatuation and love have really caused a lot of trouble and challenge to our lives and worth paying attention.  We have been victim of them one time or the other, don't you think so?