Share with forum members life issues you found difficult to understand. My is: Poor people no matter their sophistication, strategies and all the grand-breaking ideas most of them remain poor, while reach guys at their foolishness and perceive unwise decisions yet they are getting richer. Why?

What I found difficult to understand is that why is it that when you tell people the truth they will hate you?, in short people punish who tells them the truth and reward lairs.

Mature interesting to note your point.
Welcome on board.
I think people hate the result of the truth not the truth because generally we are selfish, as the truth might not favor person at a given point in time. I once had a particular lady that comes around me, even comes to my house, when I observe some notions I told her that this our union goes no where, that I have no interest moving with her, let alone marriage. She immediately started hating  and stop greeting me among other funny things she did. Simply because she was told the truth, when other guys might prefer using her and dump her at the end.

So I really get your point: "When you tell the truth you will be hated"

I think poor people remain poor mostly because they do not have the resources to allow them to change. I also think they do not participate in affairs, especially at national level, that would allow them to change as they give priority to their more immediate concerns. I say this tentatively, as I could be very wrong in my assessment.

My worry, and honestly as a result of the learning I have been exposed to in the course of my studies, is that we Africans do not seem to take our responsibilities seriously. What do you think?

Dqueen, there are many people who have access to all you mentioned yet they are poor, and tend to continue to be poor. Poor people know all the powerful pastors and Rev. Fathers (miracle workers), they think, worry and work very hard yet they are getting poorer. If at all they get rich it  just temporary they become poor again.

Quote from: Dqueen on 2012-12-29 23:43
My worry, and honestly as a result of the learning I have been exposed to in the course of my studies, is that we Africans do not seem to take our responsibilities seriously. What do you think?

One time or the other we come across all formS of write ups from foreign media telling one nasty thing or the other about Africa either as people or as a continent.  Not taken responsibilities seriously is individual thing not other way round.
One racist man during South Africa struggle said: "that if you want to hide something for Black man hide it in paper" and another said: "Africans like affairs of leadership positions but hate responsibility", the list goes on. Dqueen all these are people's opinion (not fact) emanating from frustration they were undergoing at given point in time. I have done business with people out side Africa a lot who mess up my projects yet I didn't go around telling any one who cares to listen how or what Mr b or c  is.

Quote from: Perfect on 2012-12-30 00:31

Quote from: Dqueen on 2012-12-29 23:43
My worry, and honestly as a result of the learning I have been exposed to in the course of my studies, is that we Africans do not seem to take our responsibilities seriously. What do you think?

One time or the other we come across all formS of write ups from foreign media telling one nasty thing or the other about Africa either as people or as a continent.  Not taken responsibilities seriously is individual thing not other way round.
One racist man during South Africa struggle said: "that if you want to hide something for Black man hide it in paper" and another said: "Africans like affairs of leadership positions but hate responsibility", the list goes on. Dqueen all these are people's opinion (not fact) emanating from frustration they were undergoing at given point in time. I have done business with people out side Africa a lot who mess up my projects yet I didn't go around telling any one who cares to listen how or what Mr b or c  is.

Firstly, I would like to commend you, if I may, for your business ethics. As a business man, I think you have a good approach towards dealing with mishaps.

By not taking responsibility I meant at institutional level, e.g., government and even at 'social' level. In simple words, if our governments were responsible enough, would corruption be so rampant across Africa? And if we ordinary Africans were responsible enough, would we choose 'irresponsible' leaders simply because we 'like' them or they come from 'our village'. These are questions I constantly ask myself, if I may say.

Dqueen, this is an African societal system fault traced from the types of system Africa practiced before colonial rules. Most of African nations practiced monarchical system of governments, as you might have known, subjects are not expected to question  what the king is doing whether good or bad, whether is favorably to the people or not. Even though generations have changed but the belief has imbibed into people's subconscious minds that they don't recognize it's presence in their belief system. Only when people or circumstances call their attention to it they come out to complain, write about it, condemn it and at thesame time go back and support it either as a result of actions or inaction.     

There are so many things happening in our life, society, neighbor etc  we find difficult to understand as a person, let us continue sharing and be learning from one another. 

To much people concentrated on a very small land. Take example China people love to stay in country and live there instead that they can go and make a town/city on big places where doesnt live so much people.

What worries me about us Black People it's that, why does it seem that in most decent things which previously involved only white people who were able to maintain that decency, when we Blacks start getting involved, that decency start degrading? Why do we tend to be generally associated with negativity or carelessness?

For example, in 1995 when democracy was just introduced in South Africa after the first democratic elections of 1994, I was one of those who moved to the city of Pretoria, when blacks were now allowed to stay in areas where only white people were allowed to. I stayed in a flat and at that time most blocks of flats didn't have security fences and cars could be parked on the street pavements overnights without worrying about crime. But since we came into towns and cities in numbers, security started being a problem, flats were now fenced up and cars couldn't be left out on the streets for overnight anymore, because of deteriorated break ins in the flats and the cars!

Looking at Pretoria in town now, the state of the flat buildings has deteriorated very much. I remember when I sold my flat about five years later when the majority of tenants were then black people, the state of the  flat building was much worse than when we arrived five years before. The lifts were not working and the building was generally dirty with littering all over.

Most whites who stayed in those flats before we came, had moved away to the quieter suburbs and we thought they were racist, but later realized that some were worried about devaluing of their properties. Chika Onyeani, in his book: "CAPITALIST NIGGER", mentioned that in the United States of America where he is staying, other racial groups tend to move away from decent suburbs when black people start coming in numbers, because they are afraid that their properties are going to devalue in price. This is not about racism, but because of the problems or challenges mentioned here. Even noise due to loud music had become a serious problem. I remember initially when we arrived in Pretoria, white tenants used to call Police complaining about loud music from black tenants.

So, that is what I find difficult about us black people, although it's not all of us, but it's a general problem with blacks. Even like when driving on the streets, majority of people who like to throw rubbish out of the car windows on the tar roads and road sides are blacks. Why can't one keep rubbish in the car until he/she reaches the next rubbish bin? Even littering of rubbish on the streets or where we not supposed to, blacks are generally responsible.

So what can be the cause of all these? Can we blame all these on apartheid and poverty? I doubt that!